Do I deserve punishment?

Why does it seem like every goal I set for myself is pointless?

Do I deserve punishment? Details

All I do is let everyone down, including myself. I’ve been trying so hard to please everyone around me and every time I mess up, the only thing that feels right is punishing myself. I used to just hide in my room all day and avoid my friends. It’s not like they’d want to hang out with someone like me anyway. But that wasn’t enough.

Hurting myself is the only way I can escape the pain and disappointment I’m always battling. I’m frustrated, I’m confused, and I’m starting to hate myself. Suffering is the only thing I feel like I deserve.

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I have an overwhelming urge to hurt myself.

I can't do anything right and there's no other way to stop the pain.

I have an overwhelming urge to hurt myself. Details

I can’t catch a break, I swear. Mom and Dad just split up for good, and everything at home is different; it doesn’t even feel like home anymore. At school I’m constantly picked on. Even when I leave I’m still dealing with shit on social media. Am I really an awful person? Cuz it’s sure starting to feel that way…

The only time I don’t feel miserable is when I’m cutting myself. Something about REAL pain seems to make all my bad thoughts go away, even if it’s only for a second. I guess sometimes people notice the marks, but I can’t stop now. It’s all I have.

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I noticed marks on my friend's arm.

It really scared I said something about it.

I noticed marks on my friend's arm. Details

My friend and I were washing our hands in ceramics class the other day when I noticed what looked like scratches or cuts on her forearm. It really freaked me out for a second so I blurted out, “Oh my gosh what happened to your arm?” She looked at me and yanked her sleeve down and walked away. I felt bad for embarrassing her but I was just really shocked.

After school I texted her about it again and she asked if I could come over so we could talk about it. She said she was feeling really upset lately since her and her girlfriend broke up and she just didn’t know how to handle it. She just vented a lot and I reminded her she could always talk to me about those kinds of things, but I also suggested maybe she should see the school counselor to help her figure out healthier ways to deal with the breakup. I think she was glad to be reassured that she can trust me and that asking for help doesn’t mean she’s weak. It’s hard to see your friends in a bad place, but as a friend it’s important to encourage them to take care of themselves.

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I thought cutting would help me forget what really hurt me.

I blamed myself for my problems.

I thought cutting would help me forget what really hurt me. Details

My parents just didn’t get it. I really wanted to be with a girl I had liked for so long, and once I finally got my chance they wouldn’t let us hang out. It wasn’t fair, they didn’t understand how much I liked her. As if that wasn’t enough, my friends started ignoring me, too. My best friend even stopped hanging out with me when he got a girlfriend. I felt like I had no one. My whole world felt like it was falling apart, but people told me I was being dramatic.

Every time I had the chance to cut myself, it felt like all my pain and anger was finally being released and I wasn’t blaming myself for all the crap that was going on in my life.

The cutting started to get worse and so did the scars. I didn’t have a way to cover them up and people started noticing more and more. I knew I had to stop, and I worked really hard to find new ways to deal with my emotions.

The worst part is I can still see the scars. It may have been temporary relief, but the memories from each cut are now with me forever. Taking the time to sort out my problems and stop cutting helped, I just wish I would have taken the time to figure that out sooner.

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You deserve to feel better,

But there are better ways to deal with your pain than hurting yourself

You deserve to feel better, Details

Maybe you feel like hurting yourself is the only option. Cutting or burning your skin, punching yourself, or overdosing on pills and getting wasted might feel like the only way to numb what’s hurting you. But it’s not.

It probably makes you feel better—at least for a little while. But the painful feelings return, and so does the urge to hurt yourself. It’s a never-ending cycle with no solution. You deserve to feel better, and you can get there without hurting yourself.

You should never feel ashamed of the way you feel, or think that no one will understand. Keeping your emotions and wounds a secret is a heavy burden to carry, and the stress and guilt can eventually affect your relationships with friends, family, and the way you feel about yourself. Hiding who you are and how you feel can make you feel even more lonely, worthless, and trapped.

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Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with?

You are not in this alone. We hear you. We're here for you.

Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with? Details

Talk to someone. Whether it’s your friends, parents, or a trusted teacher, opening up can help you identify what is driving you to hurt yourself. It takes courage to seek help, but once you understand why you self-harm, you can learn ways to stop, and find resources that can support you through recovery.

If you’re not ready to talk to someone about what’s causing you to hurt yourself, there are healthy ways to express your feelings:

  • Punch a cushion or scream into a pillow
  • Draw, paint, create a collage, write a song or poem… creativity is a great way to express emotion
  • Cry (it’s okay!)
  • Squeeze a stress ball
  • Go for a walk or a run to release any negative feelings

Although self-harm and cutting can give you temporary relief, it comes at a cost. In the long run, it causes far more problems than it solves. The bottom line: any form of self-harm won’t help you fix what made you want to hurt yourself in the first place. There are other ways, safe and healthy ways, to deal with your pain. The first step in getting help is asking for it.

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If You Need Help Urgently

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or Text 4HOPE to 741741

Additional Resources

Feel like you could use some extra info?

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Download the “A Friend Asks” app: a FREE smart-phone app that helps provide the information, tools and resources to help a friend (or yourself) who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide.

More resources coming soon.