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I told my friends today that I wanted to start life as a boy.

They responded as I expected and said that I'm crazy.

I told my friends today that I wanted to start life as a boy. Details

I know how I feel, but no one gets it. I spent a looong time feeling like I just wasn’t me. I finally found the courage to tell everyone I now identify as a guy, but it’s just gotten way harder. I mean, I know it’s a big shock for everyone, hearing me say I’m done being a girl, but I wish they could understand how relieved I feel to FINALLY be me.

I never felt like myself before I transitioned, and my heart kept telling me this is going to make me happy. I just want everyone else to accept me, too. I need support right now, not discouragement. I hope I don’t have to be alone through this.

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I love to work out but people at school make fun of me.

I'm sick of being called a "Meat Head."

I love to work out but people at school make fun of me. Details

I’ve never been involved in school sports or clubs but working out has always been one of my favorite hobbies. At first it was just a good stress reliever and a way to stay healthy, but recently it’s become a passion. I’m really into weight lifting now – mostly because I love the feeling of hitting a new PR – so I’ve been following strict diets to bulk up and build muscle, but the kids at school are making fun of me. They’re constantly talking about how I must take steroids because of how big I’m getting, or say things down the hall like, “You better not forget to skip leg day.” I dunno, it’s just really annoying. Sometimes it makes me push myself harder in the gym, but it also is destroying my self-esteem. I don’t like feeling embarrassed about my lifestyle.

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I want to come out to my dad and tell him I'm bi, but I'm really scared.

I have no idea how he will react.

I want to come out to my dad and tell him I'm bi, but I'm really scared. Details

I can’t really tell how my dad feels about gays. He always tells me he’s not homophobic, but I’m still really nervous about how he’ll react if I tell him I’m bi. Sometimes he makes weird comments about all the celebrities and people we know who are out. It’s like I can’t tell if he really is okay with it or not. I’m really scared, but I keep telling myself I’ll feel better once I tell him. I don’t think he’d go crazy, but I don’t know… I don’t want to disappoint him, either. He’s just so hard to read sometimes. UGH.

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It seems like it's taken me forever to find a group of people who accept me.

It feels really good to finally have friends who like me for me

It seems like it's taken me forever to find a group of people who accept me. Details

Middle school is kind of an awkward time for everyone, but for me it was really rough. I was always considered one of the “weird kids” because I didn’t like mainstream music and would rather read during study hall than talk to the other kids. It was hard not having many friends, and the few that I did have didn’t really feel like “true” friends. I’m a freshman in high school now and I’m really surprised at how many people have the same interests as me. I was nervous at first that it would be the same BS as middle school, but I’m really surprised at how different it is. Ya know, for a while I didn’t want to be myself, I thought maybe I should start acting like the other kids to fit in. But I’m so glad I didn’t because I know I would have been even unhappier. I feel so much more confident being myself now.

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For the past few years I’ve been thinking I’m bisexual.

I'm usually into girls, but lately I've been thinking about guys.

For the past few years I’ve been thinking I’m bisexual. Details

I think I’m bisexual, but I don’t know how to be sure. I’ve mostly dated girls, but I find myself really attracted to guys lately. I know what I like about the way they look, but I just feel like I could never see myself being with one… I don’t know. I’ve been hooking up with girls, but there’s this one guy I’ve been into for so long. I can’t get him off my mind for some reason.

My feelings are always so back and forth. I’ll think about guys for one week, then I’m back to girls. It’s so irritating, I wish I could just pick one. I honestly don’t know what I am. Even if I can figure it out, I don’t know if telling anyone would be a good idea…

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Find your true self.

It may take time, but in the end it's worth it!

Find your true self. Details

Figuring out exactly who you are is an essential (and stressful) part of everyone’s life. Discovering and accepting parts of your identity like your interests, opinions, sexual preference and gender are just as important as any other part of what makes you, you.

Struggling with finding your identity is normal and can become more intense during your teenage years. Questioning who you are may lead to depression, anxiety, and other emotional or even physical problems.

Sometimes the pressure of school, work, and your peers can make accepting yourself even more stressful. If you’re questioning your interests, choices, your sexual orientation or gender identity, you’re not alone. Finding someone to support you during this time can be an important part of finding yourself.

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Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with?

You are not in this alone. We hear you. We're here for you.

Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with? Details

Accepting who you are isn’t an easy process. There are difficult and confusing choices at every step of the way. If you’re feeling anxious or depressed, isolating yourself to avoid others, or self-medicating with drugs or alcohol to escape, it’s important to find someone you can share your feelings and doubts with. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a local support group, or maybe someone you trust at school, you know best when it comes to finding the right person to talk to.

Talking through what you’re dealing with can encourage you to feel confident about yourself and teach you to accept the challenges while figuring out who you are. It takes time, but learning to express your emotions, whether they are fear, confusion or anger, can open up a path to discovery and acceptance. The most important thing you can do is never give up!

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If You Need Help Urgently

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
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For LGBTQ Adolescents & Teens: The Trevor Project is national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning:

Download the “A Friend Asks” app: a FREE smart-phone app that helps provide the information, tools and resources to help a friend (or yourself) who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide.

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