GRIEF

GRIEF

My mom was my best friend, and I lost her.

I'm feeling confused and looking for answers.

My mom was my best friend, and I lost her. Details

My mom died last month but it feels like it’s been forever. It’s like I’m stuck in a nightmare that I can’t wake up from. Every day I wake up thinking she’ll magically reappear but then I have to remind myself she’s really gone.

I don’t know when this is supposed to get easier. People tell me to take it a day at a time but what do they know? My mom is dead, how am I supposed to just “get over” that? I only feel like things are getting worse; each day is just another day without her.

I would do anything to just have one more day with her, or for her to give me a sign that she’s watching over me. People tell me she’s always with me, but I need something to make me believe. I don’t even know how I feel anymore, besides numb. It just sucks. I wish I could go back in time, or wake up from this nightmare…anything other than living without her.

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My 14-year-old brother killed himself.

Nothing could have ever prepared me for the pain I feel right now.

My 14-year-old brother killed himself. Details

I miss you. Why did you do this to yourself, to me, to mom and dad, to everyone? You were only 14. You had it all, man. You were smart, great at sports, funny…you were amazing. Why did you have to kill yourself without even saying goodbye?

I know sometimes we argued about sharing a room, but sleeping in there alone just doesn’t feel right. I feel like such a big part of me is missing. I feel like I let my little brother down. I don’t even know how to explain how I feel anymore. I’ve felt every emotion since you died, and it’s not getting easier. I still can’t accept that you’re gone.

Talking about our memories helps sometimes, but then I remember how short of a life you had…All I can do is hope this gets easier, even though I know it won’t.

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My grandpa was my hero.

It's been a year since he passed away but I'm learning to cope.

My grandpa was my hero. Details

You never get over losing someone you love – that’s what I’ve learned this past year. Grieving is a strange process; there’s sadness, guilt, anger, denial and other stages, but the hardest one to face is acceptance. I lost my grandpa suddenly, I still don’t want to believe he’s gone. I spent a lot of time with him when I was little and not seeing him anymore is the worst pain ever. I wasn’t myself and I was having a hard time healing so I started seeing a counselor and honestly, it really helped me. I liked that I could tell my therapist my favorite stories about Grandpa – the happy ones mostly. We didn’t always have to talk about him being gone. What really helps though is journaling. I never thought I would like writing down my feelings but it really helps. Instead of my thoughts and emotions being all jumbled up in my head, I started writing them down on paper and it’s a great release for me. When I kept everything in my head I felt like I would never be able to move on – I was always sad or angry. It hasn’t been easy missing my grandpa, and I still struggle with accepting he’s gone, but I’m really glad I have someone to talk to now and that there are healthier ways to deal with my feelings.

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I thought cutting was a way to help me forget about what really hurt me.

I blamed myself for all my problems, so hurting myself made sense.

I thought cutting was a way to help me forget about what really hurt me. Details

I’d do anything to fill the space my dad left when he died. The pain hit me so hard that nothing made sense. He died so suddenly and sometimes I wonder if I had a chance to say goodbye this would all be easier. Since the night he died it’s all I can think about. The grieving has never stopped and neither has the pain.

I’ve tried drugs, alcohol, smoking, and cutting my wrists…anything to help me deal with the pain. I just want to feel numb all the time. Hurting myself is the only way I feel better. It’s all I have right now. I can’t stop. I’m afraid I could turn to something worse to help me through this. I can’t stop myself from doing the things that keep me sane, no matter how bad they are.

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Overcoming grief takes time...

And there are healthy ways to get through it.

Overcoming grief takes time... Details

There are many natural, yet painful responses to loss. Feeling sad, distressed, lonely, or depressed is never something you should feel ashamed of. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with the pain and express your emotions in ways that allow you to heal.

Usually, grief is associated with the death of a loved one, but any loss can cause grief, including the loss of a relationship, your health, or your job. After a significant loss, you may feel many difficult emotions, such as shock, anger, guilt, and sometimes depression.

Whenever you are grieving, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to occur naturally. Not everyone grieves in the same way or for the same length of time, but there are healthy ways to heal from the pain.

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Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with?

You are not in this alone. We hear you. We're here for you.

Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with? Details

Grieving is a personal experience and the process takes time. Finding peace of mind happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. People may tell you to “be strong” or “carry on,” but that doesn’t need to come overnight. It takes time, but things do get better.

Having support from others is important when dealing with loss. It can be difficult to talk about your feelings in any situation, but it’s important to express them when you’re grieving. Sharing your emotions makes the burden of grief easier to carry. Finding someone who will simply listen to your story is sometimes enough to release the painful feelings you’re holding in. When others offer support, accept it. Connecting with others will help you heal.

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If You Need Help Urgently

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or Text 4HOPE to 741741

Additional Resources

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Download the “A Friend Asks” app: a FREE smart-phone app that helps provide the information, tools and resources to help a friend (or yourself) who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide.

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