BULLYING

BULLYING

I get picked on every day because of my weight.

Going to school sucks.

I get picked on every day because of my weight. Details

Fat ass, thick, thunder thighs… I’ve heard it all. I guess I’m kind of chubby, but that doesn’t make me a bad person, right? Well, the girls at school must think so. Everyday it’s the same crap from them. They call me those stupid names and talk about what size clothes I wear in front of all the guys at school, then they mess with me on social media and body-shame me on all of my pictures. Sometimes they even tell me I should just kill myself. I hate them, and I hate how they make me feel!

I tell my teachers, but they do NOTHING. Sometimes I just want to scream at them, or hit them and see how they like it! I just hate getting picked on all the time. I’m starting to hate going to school and I can’t just keep ignoring all of it. I’m going to lose my mind!

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Yep, I’m a jerk...

Does that make me a bully?

Yep, I’m a jerk... Details

Instead of focusing on my grades and my friends, I’m constantly being a jerk to the kids around me. I’m doing bad in school, my friends hate me and it’s just a bunch of crap I have to deal with on top of the stuff going on at home.

I think I’m an asshole because my parents split up. I’m mad at them, but the easiest way to deal with it is being a dick to the kids at school. I think they’re starting to get annoyed though because they’ve started being mean to me too. I guess I deserve it, but it just gets me even more pissed off.

I can’t control my anger at school and I take it out on everyone around me, does that make me a bully? I wanna have friends, I just don’t know who can help me.

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I watched the same kid get picked on every day.

I finally got so fed up I stepped in. I wish I would have sooner.

I watched the same kid get picked on every day. Details

There’s this one kid at school that always gets made fun of and it really bothers me. He never bothers anyone but there’s this group of guys that always call him a faggot or a loser and tell him he’s going nowhere in life. The other day they posted a picture of him on Instagram with a really nasty caption and I was just like “Okay, that’s it. I gotta do something about this.” So the next day I sat with him at lunch. I just sat down at the table with him and was like, “Hey man, how’s it going?” I didn’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or anything, I just wanted him to feel like he could trust me and stuff. We made some small talk and then the guys that always mess with him made their way over.

“Oh is this your new boyfriend?” they asked us. I was so pissed. I was just like, “Why don’t you guys get a life instead of picking on him. You’re seriously so pathetic.” They just rolled their eyes and walked away from us. It didn’t feel like much, but he thanked me and we went back to our conversation about baseball. I wish I would have said something sooner, but it’s better than not saying anything at all. It felt good to stand up for someone else and let them know they don’t have to deal with that stuff alone.

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My ex-best friend is throwin’ some mad shade.

Now no one wants to hang with me anymore.

My ex-best friend is throwin’ some mad shade. Details

We were tight until she started hangin’ with those girls in middle school. It was like I didn’t even matter to her anymore, like I was so annoying. She’d make fun of me in front of her “new” friends just to make them laugh. It was like she was usin’ me to make herself seem cool.

It got worse in high school. She was always tryin’ to slam my head against the lockers, callin’ me names, lurkin’ on my Twitter and tryin’ to get people to hate on me…anything to make me seem like a loser. But it’s weird…she only did it to me, no one else. Maybe she thought I was an easy target, I don’t know, but she did it just to make everyone laugh.

I’m over the whole “ex-best friend thing,” I would never want to be her friend anyway. Bitch PLEASE. I really just want her to leave me alone, but she won’t! I try to ignore her but she always finds a way to get to me. I just don’t know what else to do, I can’t get away from her!

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Bullying is destructive.

It can start to break you down physically and mentally.

Bullying is destructive. Details

If you’re being bullied don’t blame yourself. It’s not your fault. No matter what someone says or does, you shouldn’t be ashamed of who you are or what you feel.

You’re allowed to stand up for yourself if someone is picking on you, but fighting back isn’t the answer. You can try calmly talking to them, or laughing off the mean comments; this could catch them off guard. If you’re concerned about your safety, the best thing you can do is walk away and find somewhere safe that is away from the bully.

Cyberbullying makes it hard to hide from the people who are mean to you. Always think about what you share on social media: are you posting things that people could use against you? Also, make sure your privacy settings are set to allow only your friends to see what you’re posting, keep your passwords safe, and always keep your parents or other trusted adults in the loop so they know what’s going on in your life.

Always take pride in yourself. Who cares what a bully says? They don’t know all the great things about you! Keep those in mind instead of the messages you hear from people who are trying to bring you down. Always stay true to you.

If you’re concerned about someone who is being bullied, there are ways that you can remind them they are important. One of the best things to do is let the person being bullied know that they aren’t alone. Keep them included to show them that you care. Sometimes hanging out with them is just enough to remind them there are people who care about them. You have the power to stand up to bullying and be a part of the solution.

There is no single solution to bullying or a best way to handle a bully, but finding someone who you trust and talk to about your experience is a step in the right direction.

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Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with?

You are not in this alone. We hear you. We're here for you.

Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with? Details

Whether you’re the one being bullied or you’re trying to support someone who is bullied, having people you trust and can turn to is important. Encouragement and support will help you stand up to bullying and build your confidence.

There are plenty of people who love and appreciate you for who you are. Confiding in someone can help relieve the stress, confusion, anxiety, sadness, or anger you may be feeling as a result of being bullied. There are always people who are here for you. It’s not always easy, but sometimes you have to make the first step when asking for help.

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If You Need Help Urgently

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or Text 4HOPE to 741741

Additional Resources

Feel like you could use some extra info?

Additional Resources Details

If you're a bully, a bystander, or you or someone you know is being bullied, check out StopBullying.gov.

If you're being bullied you're not alone. Take a stand. Learn more at PACER Centers's Teens Against Bullying

Download the “A Friend Asks” App: a FREE smart-phone app that helps provide the information, tools and resources to help a friend (or yourself) who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide.

More resources coming soon.