ABUSE

ABUSE

Sometimes my mom hits me.

I'm not a perfect kid, but do I deserve this?

Sometimes my mom hits me. Details

She doesn’t do it a lot, but when she does it leaves really bad marks, sometimes even blood. I don’t really understand why she does it, but she says I need “discipline.” It’s always because of the dumbest things, like when I forget to clean up my room, or if I take a break from my homework. It’s not like I’m doing anything that bad. It’s really starting to freak me out.

Sometimes she hears me crying even when I’m trying to be quiet. She tells me to suck it up. I told her I’m starting to feel depressed, but she thinks I’m being dramatic. Does she even care about me?

Now my stepdad is involved and he’s threatening to hit me twice as hard. I just don’t understand why they’re doing this. I’m not a bad kid, but everything I do seems to piss them off. I feel trapped.

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I watched my dad beat up my mom.

I'm so scared.

I watched my dad beat up my mom. Details

It’s all kind of a blur but I remember it started with them yelling. They were fighting about something stupid but then my mom lost it and started hitting my dad. It made me feel awkward and nervous. I didn’t want to see it.

Things started to sound worse when I walked past their room. Dad had mom pinned on the bed with his hands around her neck. I couldn’t help it and I screamed at him to stop but he wouldn’t. I didn’t know what to do.

It didn’t stop there. He started choking her, and she couldn’t breathe. He told her he would kill her! I couldn’t stop myself from going after him. It wasn’t much, but I hit him and screamed at him until my mom finally broke free and ran away. She didn’t come back for a few days, and then things seemed normal again. I’m really scared that this could happen again and my mom could get seriously hurt. I don’t know who to tell. My parents need help, and I gotta do something.

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My relationship was starting to scare me.

I knew I needed to get out ASAP.

My relationship was starting to scare me. Details

My partner was super manipulative and made me feel bad for EVERYTHING I did. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells with them and I didn’t know little thing would set them off next. It just felt like it was only getting worse. They started calling me names, threatening me, and stalking my every move on social media. I didn’t feel safe anymore.

Breaking up with them wasn’t easy – I still cared about them but I couldn’t be with someone who made me feel worthless and paranoid. My support system was so important and they were there for me through it all. It was so important to have reassurance and encouragement when I felt so vulnerable and unsure of myself. Getting out of that relationship was the best decision I made. I’m much happier, much more confident, and now I realize what a respectful, healthy relationship should be like. It’s hard to accept when your partner is abusive and your relationship is unhealthy, but it’s important to put yourself first, surround yourself with people you can trust, and be brave when getting out of a relationship that is hurting you.

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I think my friend’s dad is messed up.

She talks about him getting drunk and taking advantage of her.

I think my friend’s dad is messed up. Details

I don’t know what’s going on with my friend, but I think her dad is abusing her. She usually has bruises on her wrists and when I ask about them it’s always some story about how her dad got drunk and she pissed him off so he hurt her.

She told me he gets drunk a lot and it’s becoming a problem. She’s never told me that he “rapes” her, but she says he “takes advantage” of her when he’s had too much to drink. I can tell every time we talk about sex or her dad it weirds her out. She never wants to talk to me about it, but honestly, I don’t really know what I would say if she did. It’s such a messed up situation and I really want to find a way to help her.

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You deserve to be safe and secure.

Abuse is never OK.

You deserve to be safe and secure. Details

Abuse can happen to anyone. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what your gender is, what your ethnicity is, or where you live. ANYONE can be abused, but NO ONE should be.

Physical abuse (hitting, scratching, grabbing, throwing objects, using weapons, etc.) and sexual abuse (rape/attempting rape, unwanted touching/kissing, threatening someone to have sex, drugging someone, etc.) probably sound the most familiar, but they aren’t the only forms of abuse that people encounter.

Emotional abuse and digital abuse can also affect people. Emotional abuse includes non-physical behaviors such as threats and insults, constant monitoring or “checking in,” humiliation, intimidation, isolation, and stalking. Digital abuse is the use of technologies such as texting and social networking to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate someone. Sometimes these two go hand-in-hand.

Abusive and traumatic experiences often leave people feeling frightened, paranoid, numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Recovering from the pain and being able to feel safe again can take time. Whether abuse happened years ago or yesterday, you can heal and move on.

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Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with?

You are not in this alone. We hear you. We're here for you.

Do you or someone you know need someone to talk with? Details

No matter who you are, you deserve to live without pain and fear. Whether you’re the abused, the abuser, or a concerned friend or family member, it’s important to know that there is help available. Learning about the different types of abuse and what you can do to stop or prevent it can make a huge difference in your own life or someone else’s.

Always seek help if you’re being abused or know of someone who is. This is the first step to feeling safe and secure again.

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If You Need Help Urgently

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or Text 4HOPE to 741741

Additional Resources

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Additional Resources Details

To learn more about the different types of abuse, or if you or someone you know is being abused, visit LoveIsRespect.

Downlad the “A Friend Asks” app: a FREE smart-phone app that helps provide the information, tools and resources to help a friend (or yourself) who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide.

More resources coming soon.